Dating Diaries 13: The Phone Date

While I haven’t met a lot of guys who like to talk on the phone, every guy is different, and the unconventional times of 2020 call for more remote connection . . . so . . . 

The phone date, hehe. 

I hadn’t sensed a “spark” texting with this guy, so didn’t have a lot of expectations when I answered his call. But he turned out to be a lot different than I expected and we had a GREAT two-and-a-half-hour conversation!

He had labeled himself as “a laid back California dude” (umm, okay), but also had an MBA from an Ivy League university and a pretty nice career in the tech industry (so, there’s that). We had also connected on some of our international travels, so I did anticipate that our conversation would at least be interesting. 

Something that has been a challenge for me in the dating arena has been to share personal information with people I don’t know. I NEVER do this. 

I’m an extrovert and can lead a classroom or a small group, ask questions, articulate my thoughts, introduce myself to someone in line, and bring energy to a party. But personal information . . . is usually reserved for my closest relationships. 

But dating this way seems to bypass the natural progression of relating and accelerate at an UNNATURAL pace. . . 

But, I’m on board for now!

So . . . the questions began. I just let him lead the conversation. And, it was fun!

At a few points during the conversation, I heard typing in the background. Yes, typing. 

I just automatically assumed (without thinking about it) that he was quickly responding to a work email. He had mentioned that he needed to get some work done that day, and I’ll admit that I often multitask while talking on the phone (but I forgot that guys DON’T usually multitask in this way). He was still really engaged in the conversation, so I didn’t give it a second thought and kept talking. 

But  . . . I’m pretty sure he was taking notes while we were talking. Uh, yeah, I think so. 

At the end of our conversation, he brought up several points (verbatim) that I had mentioned that he thought were interesting. I mean, he quoted me. 

I’m still not sure how I feel about it. It’s really nice to be listened to, and really nice to be quoted, but . . . taking notes during our conversation . . . hmm, that’s a first. 

But lots of firsts. 

Energized from talking with him, I dialed an out-of-state friend that I swap dating stories with, and she answered my call with a question: “How’d the phone interview go?” We both laughed. 

It kind of did feel like a phone interview. It’s weird. Dating is like no other relationship. It’s like a friendship, combined with practical logistics, somewhat like a job interview . . . and then add romance into the mix. It’s just different. 

But it continues to be fun and a great learning experience. So, the plan with this guy is to video chat next time . . . we’ll see how that goes!